Facebook is like dating

Some people just don’t get it.

They do not understand that social networking is all about building relationships.  I, like many of my friends, am a bit protective of my Facebook account (unlike twitter and LinkedIn which I view as far more open networks).  So I generally study the Facebook friend requests for awhile and decide whether or not I’m going to confirm this new friend. My general rule of thumb is I have to have met you at least once in order for you to be my FB friend. I realize that everyone has different boundaries and people across social networks should respect that. Some people are open to friending everyone, others of us are not.

But back to dating.

More than once lately I have had someone ask to be my friend on Facebook whom I thought was a real friend (or at least a business acquaintance) only to have me accept them and quickly regret it. Why? As quick as you can hit “confirm friend” they send me a request to “like” their business page. Ugh.

I’m thinking, “I’ve just been used to get your numbers up!”  To make that old baseball/dating analogy I haven’t gotten to home plate and you’re envisioning a home run!  Hold your horses friend. I’m still on deck!

Is there a lesson to be learned?  When it comes to social networking, please, oh please engage the person and connect with them as a human being. Don’t make them feel used. Be sure to chat with them a bit and show them that you care about them. The business will come later. Make comments on their photos and videos and show them you like what they have to say. After all, you have cared enough about them to ask them to be your friend, so be one!

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